Do I Tell My Boyfriend He Is Not Smart?

Posted by E.L.E.X on June 07 2020 under Motivational

Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it’s too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I’d maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, and he’s everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he’s gorgeous, and he also loves me a lot.

He’s kind, he’s patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here’s the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond “what are you doing”, “what did you eat” (and all that boring stuff) to save his life.

I’m not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that’s happening around the world or around us.

Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go “Yeeaaaa that’s true” , leaving me really pissed.

He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn-off and I’m slowly losing interest in him. It’s a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that’s about it…nothing more.

I didn’t notice it at first – before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal-breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don’t exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don’t want that.

I’ve also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I’m asking for too much?

The latter option is what I’ve been doing and it’s gradually killing me. I fear that I’ll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he’s a wonderful guy.