Please Advise, What Should I Do? He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go

Posted by E.L.E.X on March 09 2021 under Motivational

A fellow reader needs our help, and so she brought her story here.

Just of recent I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not the type of woman who does choke my partner or check his phones because I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together.

We planned to do our engagement last year in December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on the system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red-handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating, but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like a person.

There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it, but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”?

It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologized, after the much argument, I started packing my things to come back to our state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out?

Listen, woman, even if I cheat every day, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you, vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for a quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to.

At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat.

He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused.