My Wife Won’t Cook For Our Guests, Please Advise Me

Posted by E.L.E.X on September 03 2020 under Motivational

Hello Good afternoon readers. This is very long, so please bear with me.

I’ll start from the root. Well, in my church, there’s usually a committee for the married men were most times we can proffer solution to the issues or need of the church members and other times organize get together monthly within us (married men) just to foster unity.

Since we’re like 20, different men host the get-together. Therefore, it’s spaced out for 1year and 8months.

It all began last Sunday when I was chosen to oversee the next get together which comes up this Sunday after church. When we (my wife and I) got home after church, I told her about it and she immediately asked, “who would do the cooking”? I was taken aback as the question sounded strange.

I replied to her saying, since she did the cooking the last time, I figured she’d do it this time.

She got angry and said there’s no way she’ll be going through the stress of cooking for 18 to 25 men and that I better know what to do concerning who’s going to handle the cooking.

I tried to calm her down and reminded her of how I assisted her in the kitchen by pounding the yams while she made the soup -two soups actually and that I was going to help her this time. Yam is quite expensive, so we’re not pounding this time, just Semo.

She remained adamant and said there was no way she would do anything, that the work stressed her so much, and she won’t partake in any cooking and that I better go find anyone to do the cooking. Thing is, I understood the fact that the work was stressful for her because she was 5 months pregnant then and it was her first time.

Yesterday at work, I kept pondering about a solution and a thought struck me. I called her from work and asked her, “how about I get one of the women at church to offer you support?”. She blatantly refused and still held on to her words.

My mind hasn’t been settled since morning because I got hold of a caterer, and she told me that she’ll charge a thousand naira per head, that is approximately 20k. Truth is, the get together came at a wrong time and considering the prices of drinks, the cost of the foodstuff, meat, ingredients, etc. I really can’t afford a caterer right now.

I’m at a crossroad now. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing a rift between us. I thought of bringing a church member to assist on that day without informing her, so she wouldn’t surprise me and leave the house but I fear that if she comes, my wife might not join her in the kitchen and the woman will begin to feel a certain way (thinking of how ungrateful we are).

Then again, who will purchase the food items? I’ve just been confused. I really need insights.

Note: I said I’ll help her make the swallow, she just needs to make the soup.